Happy New Year and Happy New Term at Essex to everybody!
On this occasion I decided to join the cliché club and share with you some of my New Year’s Resolutions. Of course it doesn’t need to be the 1st of January to try to become a better person, but somehow one chapter closes and another one begins, what can be just another good reason to stop for a moment and reflect about what we do and how. I find it good to do a little self-evaluation sometimes and I really think it helps to keep on the right track. Apparently, decisions made public are more likely to be put into practice, so… Here are my resolutions for this year:
- First, be kind.
Always. Regardless of stressful situations, bad days, headaches, hustle and various opinions. None of these are a reason to be impatient or unpleasant. Other people are not guilty of my struggles and they should not be affected by them, no matter how hard my day has been. Also, spreading kindness will help me to recharge with good energy and bring the peace of mind, especially needed in the difficult days.
- Keep the balance.
Getting a good degree and paying rent on time are important goals, but they should not mean a constant sacrifice and neglecting other vital needs. There will always be these few extra hours I could spend to improve something, but maybe my work doesn’t need to be p-e-r-f-e-c-t; maybe it’s OK when it’s just good enough. While studying, working, and striving to do things well, I developed an unhealthy feeling of guilt if my day was not as productive as it could have been. By productive I mean spent studying or doing other work. It didn’t really make me feel good in the end. This year, I will include things such as drumming, dancing, painting, spending time with friends and writing letters to precious people far away, to my productive time and will not feel guilty about being a human.
- Think positively.
Do you remember the famous quote by Captain Jack Sparrow?
“The problem is not the problem. The problem is your attitude about the problem”.
This is so important to remember. Every day we choose how we handle situations and where we direct out thoughts. We can focus on good or bad aspects; it is totally up to us. Some struggles are needed and we should just appreciate them as they come. We can hate rainy days, but what would happen if there was no rain at all?
This last resolution is a tool to keep the other three in my mind not only until the end of January, but also later on. I have tried different types of meditation and I found it quite challenging, but this little 2 minute practice is suitable for everyone and I think it’s really worth doing. Every morning, first thing after waking up, I sit up and think about how grateful I am to be who I am, where I am, to have such precious people in my life and to be able to shape my life in so many different forms. And then I make a decision that this day will be a good one, and that I will not let anything change it, because everything is in my head and it is me who controls it.
I think that’s the most important things for me to keep in mind at this stage and I believe that just reminding myself about it every morning will make me a happier and healthier person. I hope it inspired some of you to make your own reflections, and maybe even share them with your friends. Writing it down and letting it out definitely helped me, so thank you for that! I wish you all an amazing year!