Feeling overwhelmed?

Do you know the feeling of being stressed by essays, tests, presentations, work and volunteering commitments…You’re trying to pass everything well and still want to be involved in activities that matter to you, but it’s getting a bit too much. You just want to stop the time to get good sleep, watch all episodes of Friends, and then make the world spin round again. Sounds any familiar? If so, then you’re not alone in this. But there are a few ways to deal with it.

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Define the problem.

Do you have too many responsibilities? Is there any particular lecture that is difficult or any academic skill you need to improve? Do you struggle with managing your time or planning your work? Whatever it is, it has a solution, as long as you can define the problem. Just ask yourself a question what makes you feel like this and what can be done about it. If you think you can’t solve it yourself, maybe if would be easier after talking to your friend, lecturer, course director, Student Support or Talent Development Center. There are plenty of people willing to help you, but you need to let them know that you struggle.

 

See the good side.

Sometimes, it’s the attitude that’s the problem. Maybe it’s not meant to be easy – maybe that’s the whole point. When you work out to strengthen your muscles, run faster, climb higher… It requires effort and commitment, and your body is likely to be sore. This is how you know that it’s actually working and that you are improving.

It’s important to remember why you’re here. Most likely, you want to learn about something that interests you. You probably have a goal to achieve. To achieve this goal, you have to come out of your comfort zone. It might be hard sometimes, but that’s good, because this is how we learn.

It’s only up to you what you will make out of it. You can appreciate the amazing opportunity you have to learn and improve, or you can complain about it being difficult. The choice is yours.

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Look after your body.

Sometimes we think we’re some kind of super-humans who can survive on Red Bull, frozen pizzas and 4 hours of sleep. It’s strange that we understand that cars need the right petrol and certain maintenance to run properly, but we tend to forget that it applies to our bodies too. Drinking plenty of water, eating well, and getting enough sleep is so important, especially when you need to work at full speed. If you have heard it from your mom before, it’s because it’s true! 🙂

 

Prioritize ‘’ME TIME’’.

This is so crucial for everyone’s well-being. You are busy and you have the whole list of important things to do, but these things are not more important than YOU. Do something that makes you happy every day, even if it’s only a few minutes. Dance, sing, play an instrument, draw, go for a walk, meditate… Do whatever charges you with good energy.

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Don’t be harsh on yourself.

If something didn’t go as you planned, don’t punish yourself with negative thoughts. It’s OK. It’s just a part of the learning process. Just acknowledge it and move on. How many times did you fall off your bike before you’ve mastered riding it?

I hope you don’t get overwhelmed and that you stay faaaar away from the negative bubble! Life at Uni might become hard if you take up too much work and try to make everything perfect. I think the most important is to be kind to yourself and accept that you really don’t need to be perfect. Just love yourself, think positively and don’t hesitate to reach out for help if it’s needed! I’m sending you all a virtual hug and wish you a healthy end-of-term revision!

 

Freshers’ mistakes to avoid

The first month of freshers’ madness is over and I hope it’s been a great time for all of you. Now, some serious stuff begins.

Essays, tests, presentations, nights spent in the library, litres of coffee… nah, it’s not that bad really 🙂  I hope you’ll have an amazing year filled with great experiences, so to make a bit easier in the academic aspect, I’d like to share with you some tips I wish someone had given me at the very beginning of my journey. Hopefully some of you will find it useful!

Here are a few things to AVOID:

Not knowing what and when you have to do assignments

I know that students’ budget might be restrictive, but getting a year planner is a great investment, trust me. You can also get creative and make one yourself. Whichever way you find to organize your work, it’s important that you know your deadlines, so when you see that you have to hand in four essays in the same week, you can do something to avoid being unprepared.

 

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Pulling all-nighters all the time

Your hands are shaking from too much Redbull and the letters on the screen are getting blurry. You have two hours to finish before the deadline, you’ve only covered half of the material and with rising despair you’re asking why you did this to yourself. Again.

Some people say they prefer to work under pressure, because they suddenly become super-productive. I personally feel enough pressure having to deliver a good piece of writing and don’t need an extra thrill of the ticking clock. But I’m sure you’ll find that out for yourself!

 

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Thinking you’re all alone

As a student whose first language is not English, I had a hard time following two hour lectures filled with words I didn’t know and reading academic texts. I didn’t want to ask any questions after class because I didn’t want to look silly, in case I missed something that had been said.

The important thing to remember is, we would not be at the University if we already knew everything. It’s always good to ask your lecturer and it’s OK not to know things, repeat the question and admit that you struggle if you need to. The lecturers are here to help us improve; they don’t expect us to know everything. Don’t let your doubts accumulate, because if you don’t know what your classes are about for a few months, you will have to find it all out in one go. Whatever your work-under-pressure-master technique is, don’t do that.

If you need help with English, writing your essay, finding resources, referencing, effective reading, or anything else, it’s really worth to book a session at the Talent Development Centre. There is plenty of assistance offered to you, as long as you reach out for it.

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Not answering the essay question

It might seem obvious but I still did it. I heard the lecturer say ”in your first essay you will have to explain what management is”…and that was it for me. I spent an entire week reading and writing, I put so much effort into my first academic essay and submitted it with pride.  When I got it back with a big D-,  for a moment I questioned all my abilities. After reading the feedback I knew that next time I’d need to go on Moodle and see the full assignment description and points to include. Oh well.

 

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Thinking that the first year doesn’t count

Technically it doesn’t. But what you didn’t do in the first year, you might have to catch up with later, and that’s not always fun. You have time to get used to things and find your way to go about it, without unnecessary pressure, but don’t just shrug it off. There are also other benefits you might not think of at first, for example summer schools, internships or Study Abroad Programs, which might take into account grades from your first year.

 

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Procrastinating too much

I think in the first year I spent more time thinking about how much work I had to do instead of actually doing it. You don’t need to torture yourself. Set some time when you study and don’t do anything else, no Game of Thrones in the background, no Facebook open, no distractions. Just get it DONE! And have more time for fun things afterwards. It’s always difficult to start, but then you’ll find your way.

 

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I hope you enjoy your time at Essex and avoid all of the mistakes above! Good luck everyone 🙂

 

 

Ways to learn a new language at Essex

If learning a new language has been  sitting on your list of things to do, right next to ‘get fitter’ and ‘eat healthier’, you’re not the only one. It’s one of those things that’s always in the back of your mind; you know it would be worth doing because it gives such an edge when it comes to applying for jobs, but you just never seem to get around to it. Well, I have a great news for you. Being an Essex student, there has never been a better time to learn a new language and there are so many ways you can go about it.

Choose a language degree

The university offers great courses in languages. For those who take the Intensive Initial programme on their first year, the university might also cover the fees of the summer school abroad. I was lucky to go to International House in Valencia after my first year and came back being near to fluent in Spanish… and with a pretty nice tan!

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Combined degrees / optional modules

A Language Degree might not be your thing, but Essex offers a whole lot of combined degrees, such as Business Management and Modern Languages, International Relations and Modern Languages, Art History with a Modern Language, and so on. Many degrees have optional modules, and you might be able to choose a language and get credits for it, so no more excuses 🙂

 

Year Abroad

Yes! Essex has an impressive list of study/work abroad options! Even if you don’t speak the language of the country you would like to go to, you don’t need to worry; many universities offer modules in English. You can practice the language, get to know the culture and experience life in a different place. I went to Mexico for my year abroad and it was definitely a life-changing experience. I did some fascinating courses that are not as easily accessible at Essex, such as Mayan Language and Mayan Epigraphy. I also got addicted to habanero chilli, learned to dance Cumbia, met so many people with  different views and helped me reflect on everything I thought I knew about the world. I spent some time in the desert too, hiked beautiful mountains and swam in turquoise thermal waters. Every country you choose might open a whole new world for you.

 

Languages for All

This is another opportunity you can’t miss! LFA is a study option that you can take as evening language classes alongside your degree. There’s no  additional cost to take these classes for a year, so it’s definitely worth it! You can study Arabic, French, German, Japanese, Mandarin Chinese, Russian, or Spanish. You will have set times for classes and a tutor, so no more pushing it to another day 🙂 ! I did Russian in my first year and I enjoyed it so much that I continued in the second year, in spite of a fee. I think it’s totally worth it!

LfA will give you skills, satisfaction, certificate of completion of the course and credits towards your Big Essex Award, but it is worth noting that you will not get the academic credits for it. If you do need a course which will give you academic credits, check out the Essex Modern Language Certificate.

Language Cafés

If you don’t want to commit to regular classes, find out about Language Cafés in the Language and Linguistics Department! I attended the Russian and Spanish Cafés in previous years and I think it is a really pleasant way of learning! The sessions are led by current students (native speakers of the taught language), who organise games, conversational classes and resolve any language mysteries students struggle with, over some coffee and cookies.

Societies

Essex is such a multicultural university! Being here, you don’t need to travel to the other side of the world to be able to socialize with native speakers. You can get to know people from the country of your interest or people just like you, who want to learn about it. All you need to do is just go out there and make some friends! There are French societies, as well Bulgarian, Chinese, Nordic, Japanese, and many more! Some of them organise language classes, but there is also so much more to it! Go to Modern Languages Movie Nights, practice Spanish small-talk, get to know Japanese music, just surround yourself with it and have fun!

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Whatever works for you, just do it! This is the right time!

 

 

 

Long distance friendships and relationships

Coming to university, moving away from your loved ones, and starting this whole scary ‘long distance’ thing might be the worst nightmare for many students. It was scary for me too, but now I actually think it’s a blessing.

I left my home country a while ago, leaving all my friends behind. For the past seven years I lived in quite a few countries and, as a fairly sociable human being, I found a lovely bunch of friends in each of them and fell in love a few times. And just at the moment I would start to call that place ‘home’, it was time to make a move again… even though it was always painful (actually I don’t think I ever managed to leave without crying a river!) I learned to appreciate every different place for their own special reasons.

When I was moving around, for the first few times I was convinced I would keep in touch with all my friends and only a thought of a different scenario would make my eyes water. The truth is that it’s not always like that. You will have your life here and they will have their life there. You can drop a message sometimes, but it’s difficult to be present in everybody’s life constantly, unless you want to spend your life on Skype. The good thing about it is that it will let you identify people who really care about how you’re doing and who always will be there for you, in spite of the distance and the time passing by.

Even if it sounds harsh, I believe the same goes for amorous relationships. Sometimes being around one another constantly doesn’t give you any space to reflect upon your relationship. After moving away for a while, you will be able to look at everything from a distance and decide if it’s really right for you.

A while ago I moved to another country (again), and my boyfriend-at-the-time stayed in the country I left. We were both so in love, so of course we tried to keep it going. After I moved away, I realised that I was actually happier by myself, doing what was making ME happy and that this relationship was keeping me in stagnation, without me even realising it. I didn’t just give up, I tried to find a solution, but after a while I came to the conclusion that this was an ultimatum: my personal growth or that relationship. It sounds like the worst scenario, and I don’t wish it to happen to any of you, but I think for me I made the best decision. I looked at my relationship from a different perspective and I noticed that it just wasn’t what I wanted.

I don’t mean to scare you. It doesn’t mean that after coming to uni your relationships will fall apart. Actually, I’ve been in (another) long distance relationship for a while now and seriously, I couldn’t be happier. Ironically, the distance makes us feel even closer because now we make time for good conversations. I don’t want to sound like a relationship pro either, of course everyone is different, but just know that it doesn’t have to be a bad thing to be away from one another and if it doesn’t work, it’s for a reason.

It’s a win-win situation!

Long distance friendships and relationships at uni might be the first ‘trial’ for you and I think it will benefit you either way. If things don’t go so well and you happen to break up or stop being friends – that’s ok, honestly! It might be difficult to accept at the time, but maybe there’s some truth in the saying that everything happens for a reason. My very wise friend used to say: ”It’s always good when it’s good”. It’s so true. It’s only when obstacles such as being long distance appear that you find out if you really are meant to bein each other’s lives. And  if it does work out, that’s amazing! You guys will have a solid base to build something very valuable.

Good luck to all those who are about to embark on a new adventure, moving cities or even countries, I hope you to keep your precious friendships and establish new ones! For those who come in a ‘relationship status’, stay positive! There are so many ways to pamper your Very Special Person from far away, but that’s a topic for another post. 🙂

What to expect from the Welcome Week

I am sure you are very excited about coming here to our amazing uni…and possibly a little nervous too! So I am now going to be the helpful chap I always am and brief you about the Welcome Week!

Moving In

Ufff…this part is…I am not even going to lie to you, it was tiring! I had a lot of luggage with me, so just bringing it with me everywhere was a pain. My hands hurt, my feet hurt, I was tired from the flight. Fortunately, the University is trying to make this as easy for us as possible, by placing ambassadors and Resident Assistants everywhere, so they can direct you to the right place if you are lost.

Introductions

The number one thing to expect from the Welcome Week is…well, welcomes. From your department, your personal tutor, peer mentor, to your RA, all will be welcoming you to our university and making sure you are doing ok. They will be explaining to you what help they can offer, should the need arise and you can always turn to them for advice

Fresher’s Fair

The most anticipated event of the Welcome Week is the Fresher’s Fair. It is always held on the Squares…yes, squares…like all the 5 squares because it is a huge event! There, you will get to know a lot of people, all the societies will have stalls, and all the sports teams too, you will find everyone there, from the VTeam to Nightline – LITERALLY everyone. The whole event is just so much fun and you get to sign up to any societies or sports club that you are interested in.

 

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People

As mentioned before, you will meet a lot of people. LIKE A LOT OF THEM. Your flatmates and course mates. Also, if you decide to step out and have yourself a club night, Sub 0 and Base are always full, so be prepared for instant besties (who are actually the best), because that is what is going to happen. And if you are not the kind to go clubbing, no worries! Going to SU Bar, or just sitting on one of the squares during fresher’s week kind of guarantees you friends, since everyone is very talkative and open to meet new people.

I hope I eased your anxiety about the Fresher’s week because even though it starts out kind of rough with the moving in, it is the most amazing thing ever that you will probably never forget. If you are still nervous about it just remember that probably all the other freshers are in the same boat as you. See you all there!

Your first instalment of student loan: what to do and what not to do

There are numerous exciting moments when starting university: moving in day, first classes, and meeting new people. But perhaps receiving that first instalment of your student loan (and arguably every subsequent instalment) is THE most exciting moment there is.

However with the great first instalment comes great responsibilities, so here are the essential do’s and don’ts that you should know:

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DO budget: as boring as it sounds you need to make your money last for the entire term and if you don’t have a part-time job then this is probably the source of funds to pay for those important things. Remember this money is going towards your accommodation, food, books, stationery and socialising- so take that into account.

DON’T spend it all in the first week: Rule number one! Never, ever, ever spend the entire instalment in the first week, not matter how tempting it may be.

DO consider part-time work if you think you need more money: Sometimes the student loan just isn’t going to reach the entire term, so consider supplementing it with part-time work- you’ll find tons of opportunities both on campus and in nearby Colchester.

DON’T worry about tuition fees: The whole tuition fee thing can seem daunting, but don’t worry your first instalment of your student loan does not go towards it- this is handled separately between the university and the student loans company.

DO learn about food: Gone are the days of eating nothing but baked beans and pot noodle as a student. You can now buy good food quick cheaply, so you can eat and live well on a budget. Try shopping around and don’t rely too must on takeaways.

DON’T give into temptation: With the prospect of thousands of pounds at your disposal it is easy to get tempted by pricey clothes, jewellery, technology and the rest- but don’t do it at the risk of leaving yourself short at the end of term.

 

Good luck and happy spending (or saving!)

Last Minute Shoppers Guide To Make University Feel Like Home

polaroids_550x822When I turned up at university that sunny Sunday morning in late September I’d came prepared. I had new bed sheets, all the cooking utensils anyone could want and a Tesco food shop to last me a good 2 weeks. But there was one major thing I had missed of my shopping list.. things to make my university room feel like home.

The accommodation rooms are pretty plain. But that’s a good thing because you’d never suit everyone’s taste. This gives you the perfect opportunity to make your room yours. Consider all them finishing touches that make your university feel homely.

Photos 

Photos are the most important thing to make your room feel homely. Surrounded by your friends and family from back home that lonely room can suddenly feel a lot more like home. There are several ways you can put pictures around your room.

  • Photo frames– Choose some nice photo frames and pick your favourite photos of your loved ones. I think using a photo frame for a picture makes it really personal.
  • Photo wall– I quickly learnt that a photo wall was the thing for uni rooms! This is a great way to make them white walls seem less bland. It means you can put a lot more photos up and you’re not having to choose which photos miss out on the frames.
  • Photo lines– I think these are a great DIY way to decorate your room! Easy to make. All you’ll need is string, pegs, blue tac and some photos! Cheap but effective!

Posters & calendars

A way to take up some wall space is by getting posters! But don’t worry the university has a poster fair where you can get your posters from! A calendar is also a nice touch. It is also practical, you can write upcoming events and deadline so you never miss out! I have a pug calendar and it really comes in handy!

Cushions

 I think I have a cushion obsession. I have 7. And they all end up on the floor half way through the night. But I just love the way they make my bed look homely and also add the extra comfort.

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Bed throw/blanket

Adding a blanket or bed throw is another way to make your bed a bit more homely. It has a practical use for when its cold or you’ve got fresher’s flu to wrap up in and feel sorry for yourself.

Rug 

The carpet in the university reminds me of carpet you had in primary school. There is not a lot you can do about the carpet.. but you can add a rug!

Extras- Blackboard, whiteboard, dream catcher 

Have you thought about the little extra bits you could buy to make your university room look quirky? Try visiting shops such as B&M, Wilkinson’s and the range to find these little gems. For example, I had a moustache blackboard which also came in handy to write notes on, a white board and a sign with a quote of some sort.

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Storage boxes

Firstly, storage boxes are really handy to store paperwork and stationary in. Let’s not pretend that you haven’t already brought enough stationary to give WHSmiths a run for their money! They make your room look a lot tidier and they can also give that plain shelf a bit of life. I got mine from B&M and Argos.

Make cute jars 

There are many things you could do with a jar. From the picture below you can see this glitter jars. You could make these by getting glitter glue or adding glitter to PVA glue and painting the jar. It would take quite a few layers to get the effects of the picture below, but if you’re in to arts and crafts and have a bit of time on your hands, then these jars are a great idea!

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Jars could also be used for storage. Write labels on the side of the jars and keep loose bits and pieces in them!

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Extra seating such as beanbags

While there is only so much you can fit in your university room; an idea is adding some extra seating such as a beanbag. I know that squeezing a group of people in your room for a movie night or gossip can be hard, but having extra seating like a beanbag prevents at least one person from sitting on the floor!

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There’s a few ideas about how you can decorate your room. Do your room to suit your tastes because everyone is different and when you’re away from home, you need to feel like you have a little piece of it at uni.

 

My Frontrunners Experience

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So it’s coming to the end of my Frontrunners summer position in the marketing and student recruitment department. So this will be my very last post for the I AM ESSEX blog, I’m sure you’re absolutely distraught. So here’s a little rundown of my Frontrunners position, what I’ve gained from doing it and why being a frontrunner is a brilliant choice for furthering your career.

First of all, what is Frontrunners?

Frontrunners is a really great scheme at Essex, that essentially takes on students in various roles to give them an opportunity to work in a professional environment. There’s loads of useful training to be had, and a huge span of sectors to work in. For me, Frontrunners was perfect because it meant I could get some invaluable work experience in the marketing sector while still being on campus, so I could stay at our uni house, do some dissertation work in my free time (AKA dossing off and playing Xbox), and continue to go to the uni gym.

What I got up to:

Blogs

I’d say the most consistent thing I’ve done  is write these blogs, as someone who wants to follow a career in creative copywriting, it’s been super useful for coming up with content and writing for a specific audience. Actually being paid to rant about my opinion on things on the internet, that’s the dream!

Instagram

Who knew you could get paid to muck around on Instagram? Ok, it’s not just scrolling avocado toast photos but in my time as a frontrunner, I’ve been given the opportunity to contribute to the Essex Instagram, in the form of new campaigns, posts and Instagram stories. I even got to spend the day getting my face glitter painted and drinking mocktails in the name of work for an open day Insta story.

Photography

As a creative person, I was really excited to get stuck in with any kind of artistic things I could. I have been able to photograph a couple of events including a PhD conference and the 2017 graduation.

So Much More

I’m so glad I applied to Frontrunners, it has given me the opportunity to give so many different things a go, from proof reading, to learning more about social media, to capturing the perfect boomerang on insta. The work is nice and varied and I have come away with a lot more understanding of the sector I want to go into. Plus (I’m not sure if this is actually a good thing) there are always great snacks in the office.

Anyway, signing out, thanks for reading!

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Xoxoxo

Choosing Modules Wisely

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The beauty of uni is the amount of choice and flexibility you have with your degree, ability to pick and choose what you want to focus on is one of the best things about the transition from sixth form to uni. However, being wise about your choice of modules will also help you structure your time and not end up with a mountain of work all at once.

Check when in the year the module is

On the Essex Module Directory you can see whether a course is full year, autumn term or spring term, it’s indicated in the module code by FY-Full Year, AU Autumn, SP Spring. In my first year I made the mistake of choosing two Autumn term modules alongside the core modules I took, meaning I had loads of coursework all at the same time, and more lectures and classes too. It was definitely still doable, but when I was new to the university and time management deal, it did become a bit much on the run up to christmas when all of the coursework started to rack up. On the other side of that though, taking my optionals in the autumn meant that my spring term was the nice and relaxed, I only had three modules in comparison to the five that I had in first term, meaning I could give more time to coursework and start revision early.

Check what the assessment style is

Some people simply suck at exams, it just isn’t their forte, alternatively, some are terrible at organising their time around coursework, taking a good amount of time to check how modules are assessed means you can potentially avoid doing too much of whatever you struggle with (this obviously depends on department.)

Don’t be afraid to go outside your department

A lot of degrees will allow you to study modules outside of your department, this can seem intimidating as it isn’t in your area, but they offer you these modules for a reason. Having interdisciplinary knowledge can be so useful in the rest of your studies. I took a psychoanalysis module in first year, despite being a lit and film student and it was so useful, I was shoving Freud in any essay I could after taking it. You can apply knowledge from those modules to coursework and your independent research project. Everyone’s degree is different, shape it around what you find interesting.

Most importantly, go for your passion

You took this degree for a reason, take a good amount of time reading over the module outline, have a look at the bibliography, if necessary contact the module leader or your department for some more info. A lot of departments have their own facebook pages, you could even post on there to see if any other students could advise you on their thoughts about the module. Think about what really peaks your interest, a boring module is the worst.

 

10 Mistakes You’ll Make as a Fresher

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Coming to uni is full of new and exciting experiences, and you’re having to navigate a load of new things, so you’re bound to make a few mistakes, here’s ten things you might want to avoid, from ‘meh, you can get away with that’ to ‘for the love of all that is holy don’t do that.’ 

1.Not exploring the local area before studying starts

This isn’t essential but it’s A) useful to know the place you’ll be living in for three years and B) a nice thing to do to get to know your new friends and flatmates. It also means you can suss out local chippys for late night sesh food and where you can go for some retail therapy when things get a little too stressful.

2.Not getting familiar with how to find references before your first coursework is due

Again, this isn’t a massive mistake, but it’s just a useful thing to do before you’re bogged down with deadlines. Get yourself familiar with how to navigate the library and ways to find research material, for a lot of departments the library will give a talk on how to use the available resources, and there is loads of useful info on the library website too.

3.Buying every course book brand new

Unless you’re on a very specific course that needs particular editions etc, don’t be a wally and go forking out all your money on brand new books, go to charity shops, Ebay, Amazon marketplace and buy them second hand, or you may be able to find them online, some older books can actually be found free on apple store and kindle. A lot of lecturers will also upload the relevant reading material on ORB or moodle, so you won’t need to have the entire book, it’s best to get in touch with your department and ask beforehand

4.Joining every society under the sun

And how do you suppose you’re going to fit in Rowing, Archery, Sci-fi, Harry Potter, Pole, and Cheese and Wine society (yes that’s a real thing) into your week? Societies are great ways of meeting people but the truth is, signing up at every stall at freshers fair, you’re never going to be able to get to all of them, and you’ll be inundated with sign up emails. The best shout is to have a think what you really fancy and sign up to a select few.

5.Ruining at least one item of clothing in the wash

I did it, despite the fact that I thought I was an adulting boss before I came to uni, and not much self-sufficiency could phase me, I still managed to forget about a delicate kimono in my first wash and turn it into a pile of threads in the machine.

6.Worrying about what people think of your parents on move in day

You’re not going to be seeing them for a really long time, give your mum a break if she’s being a little clingy, everyone will understand. There’s no rush to be hurrying your folks out of the door. If there’s no welcome event in the evening of move in day, why not have a final meal with them before they head off. Emotions will be high on your first day, consider how weird it must feel for your parents now you’re flying the nest.

7.Getting caught up in all the fun and not doing the important stuff

Welcome week is predominantly  about enjoying yourself and getting familiar with your surroundings, but in between the partying and the fun stuff, there are a few admin things that are important to do. Make sure you go to the general welcome talk, registration, departmental talks and library tours, while they may seem boring and arduous, they’re important and useful in the long run. None of them take too long so you can get right back to enjoying yourself pretty quickly.

8.Panicking about not meeting your soulmate in the first week.

Likelihood is, in first week you’ll be finding your feet and meeting loads of different people, some might stick around, some might not. But really, don’t beat yourself up if the people you meet early in the term don’t seem like best mate material, good friendships take time, so don’t panic, you can still have loads of fun with first week randoms.

9.Hiding in your room

It’s very tempting, in the first few weeks, you have a new habitat and you want to burrow in it, only sneaking out to make food for yourself at strategic times when the kitchen might be empty. But making friends with your housemates, while it isn’t always the easiest, will prove useful when you’re midway into the year and fancy some company close to home.

10.Getting with someone in your flat

Just don’t.

And if you don’t know why, then maybe you deserve to learn from that mistake.